Fairytale Formula

12:00 AM

In November, I had the opportunity to read Fairytale Formula.  I wrote this post, but I never published it.  I was curious to see what I wrote in November as compared to how I feel about it now.  Here's what I wrote:

I just want to dive straight into what I love about Fairytale Formula.  At no point while I was reading did I feel like I needed to go out and find a man.  In fact, I felt the opposite.  I felt that I needed to find myself before I even tried to make anything work with another person.  The empowerment I felt while reading Fairytale Formula was incredible.  After reading, I feel that if I want to be truly happy with someone else then I must first be happy with myself.  You cannot rely on someone else to create your happiness.  It's not healthy, and it just doesn't work.

I love that the advice in Fairytale Formula is straightforward.  They don't tell you to buy this product or to say these lines.  They don't act like you're the poor victim of these love catastrophes you've experienced, and they sure as heck don't promote feeling sorry for yourself.  As a woman, I feel like we've grown up with this idea that our perfect man is out there waiting for us with some cheesy handwritten poem and a bottle of our favorite wine just because it's a Monday.  Some of us have also grown up with friends who say things along the lines of, "Oh, it's not you..." or "He's just a jerk..."  Yes, some of this is true.  But as Fairytale Formula points out, you are the one making the repeat offenses if you constantly go for the same type of guy.  In addition, if you present yourself in a certain way you will continue to attract these guys.

What I most loved about Fairytale Formula is that they told you what you need to to hear, not what you want to hear.  They're honest.  There isn't one single fix for every guy, and that new lipstick is not going to win him over.  Sometimes, it really is you but you can change that if you want to do so.  I would only change Fairytale Formula by adding more stories like one from Jenni D that explains her love life and the journey from trying to make things work with the wrong guy to being completely in love with the right one.  I would also make it longer, because I honestly just didn't want to stop reading!

I highly recommend Fairytale Formula to any single woman asking, "Hey, where is my prince?" or to any woman going through a rough time in her love life.  Since reading Fairytale Formula, I have focused on becoming the best version of myself that I can while also displaying characteristics that will help me attract the man that I want.

Here's the thing: I do think that reading this book helped me.  I did begin to focus on being myself, on being happy with myself.  I finally sat down and figured out what kind of guy I wanted in my life while getting rid of the others.  And I've met someone.  I don't know how it's going to work out.  I don't know how long it will last.  But I do know that I met a guy who shares the same values as me and treats me how I've always wanted to be treated.  I stopped expecting movie-perfect romance.  I started focusing on myself.  I stopped actively seeking attention from a male.  I figured out what kind of person I want to be, and I focused on those values.  Then I decided that I only want to be with a guy who complements and supports those ideals.  Guess what?  I'm happy.  I'm honestly happy.  This guy adds to my happiness, he doesn't create it.  At the end of the day, I think that's what your fairytale should be about.  If you want to live happily ever after, create your own happiness.  Then find someone to share it with.

I received compensation for this review, but all opinions expressed are my own.

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  1. Lovely post my dear!! I couldn't agree more that you need to discover yourself before you look for someone else. And being happy in your life and then finding someone to make that life even more happy is the way to go :)
    Will definitely be checking this book out!